The Road Less Traveled

Bullied: This Was My Childhood

by Shelly Spivey

Someone once said that when you are bullied its like breaking a glass mirror. The pieces shatter and are very hard to reassemble, but no matter how much glue or tape you use the breaks are still visible and some pieces are forever lost. I believe this is true. Those that have been bullied and tormented for years like I was aren’t ever really whole again.

Shelly Spivey
Shelly Spivey

There was a time in my life when I was carefree and believed in myself. I was young, smart, and when I looked in the mirror I saw a beautiful person. I was a kid, and I was happy in my body, I was happy to be me. I had friends. I had a lot going for me. Then it all changed. Bullies, both adult and peer, worked hard to sap my soul away with their words and actions. I can’t possibly write about everything that ever happened, it’s too long, and no one wants a novel. So these are the highlights. This is my story, this was my childhood.

Sometime in the second grade, my teacher recommended me for the gifted program in our school district. I was tested, accepted and shipped off the following year to a more suburban school. I made a few friends and really enjoyed the third grade. I didn’t do as well as my peers in a few areas, such as handwriting and spelling, and although they noticed, no one really said much. We played and had fun, as kids do. Fourth grade started and I was assigned to a teacher, Mrs. Shawshank, who I found out later, picked one kid each year and picked on them without mercy. Continue reading “Bullied: This Was My Childhood”

Bereaved Parents, bullying, suicide

Stand for the Silent (child suicide)

by Kirk Smalley
Ty’s Dad

Ty Smalley was raised in the town of Perkins, just 15 minutes from the campus of Oklahoma State University, in the heart of Payne County. Perkins had always been a small town of modest, hardworking people. Unless you lived in Oklahoma, you probably never had reason to hear of it. But that changed three years ago, after something terrible happened.

For Ty, who was small and looked a couple of years younger than his 11 years, school was a waking nightmare. By sixth grade, he had already been the subject of unmerciful bullying for a number of years. Kids tossed food at him, and he was regularly jammed into lockers and garbage cans. Deflecting insults, coping with intimidation and suffering violence were part of the daily incidents as “boys being boys.”

Throughout it all, Ty maintained his good nature and ever-present smile. Unfortunately, his outward demeanor masked a great deal of hurt.
No one saw coming what seems inevitable now. On May 13, 2010, Ty was provoked into a fight at school and was suspended. Home early from school and left alone because his parents had to work, he took his own life.
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