How long will it take me to get over the feeling of sorrow?
How long will I continue to feel guilty?
As long as it takes you to realize you did nothing wrong.
How long will it take me to get over my anger?
As long as it will take you to stop blaming yourself and others, and realize it was the combination of unpredictable happenings that occur in one’s lifetime.
Why do friends give such horrid advice?
To cover up their own inability to handle the situation.
Will I ever be happy again and be able to laugh?
An emphatic YES!
How long is long?
As long as it takes for you to go through the process. Each individual has his or her own time-table, but it is up to you to make the decision when to start healing.
~~The Compassionate Friends, Fort Lauderdale, FL
If Tomorrow Never Comes
by Norma Cornett Marek
I Had a Dream
by Donna Fields
On Monday, February 23, 2015, as Sharin Childress drifted off into a deep sleep, she was having a dream of dreams. She was at the Orange County Beach standing by the shore where she stirred the darkest waves. As she reached for that far tide with its powerful sweep, Sharin buried her troubles in the shore where no mortal could see. Sharin began to pray, humbly making her supplications known. While making her supplications known, she began to imagine Heaven and what it would be like.
Sharin began to walk along the shore. As she walked the shore, she noticed a set of footprints in the sand. She followed the path. The footprints led her to the end of the Orange County Beach. Upon reaching the end of the shore, Sharin saw a Fisherman. He was gathering fish from the shore. Read more
by Maurice Turmel, PhD
1) You will feel better knowing you are not alone with this experience of grief as a result of losing a loved one. Many individuals have traveled this path successfully and, those of us who study these processes, have been hard at work creating the tools and strategies necessary to help you safely negotiate the recovery experience.
2) You will feel better as you become aware of how manageable the healing experience can be while you grow accustomed to using tools that will help you get in touch with your feelings. Once aware of what you are feeling, you will be encouraged you to express those feelings and see for yourself how your stress level will begin to recede. Strategies of denial, anger, withdrawal and repression will be abandoned as they should because you are now aware of what’s necessary to safely manage your recovery experience. Read more
by Sasha J. Mudlaff, M.A.
“I know just how you feel.”
If you have had a similar loss, you can give tremendous support to the grieving person, but don’t suggest that you know exactly what they’re going through.
“Time will heal.”
Moldy oldie! To the bereaved, each day can seem like an eternity. Besides, how do you know that “time will heal” them? Time alone doesn’t heal, but what one does with their time can help the healing process.
Alternative – “You must feel as if this pain will never end…”
“Life goes on.”
“Life has dealt you a terrible blow. I know it will be hard for you in the months to come to live with this pain.” Read more
by Richard L. Belford
If not for you, we may never have known
The magic in marrying ones soul mate.
The pleasure of a sister in-laws company.
Or the laughter shared with an aunt.
We would not have felt,
The delight in a mother’s joy
The passion of a grandmother’s pride.
Or the sorrow in her loss.
If not for you, we may never have seen,
The compassion and generosity of one
who could not always, afford to give.
Or the worry that came with both.
We could not have shared,
The depth of a sister’s love.
The grief in a friend’s passing.
Or the anguish of a relationship lost.
If not for you,
We would have nothing to rejoice.
©2005 Richard Lawrence Belford
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