While Corrie Ten Boom was living in a German concentration camp, her entire body became infested with lice, making a bad situation worse. She was complaining about it one day, and her sister reminded her of the Bible verse that says “In everything give thanks,” and she challenged Corrie to give thanks for the lice. Corrie’s response was “How can I give thanks to God for lice?” But she made a choice to offer thanks for the lice anyway. Later, she found out that the lice had actually protected her from the assaults of the German soldiers. Continue reading “Give Thanks!”→
Holidays, which we usually greet with happiness and excitement, carry the potential to create misery and anxiety in the heart of anyone who is grieving. Occasions we normally welcome turn into times that we dread. Whether we feel guilty about participating in any kind of celebration, or we’re so heartbroken that our sorrow overtakes everything else, the holidays sometimes feel like more than we can handle. Here are a few ideas to ease holiday anxiety during grief:
1. Make simple plans before the last minute. Whatever you do, don’t let your holiday plans just fall wherever they may. You probably aren’t eager to make any kind of plans—but think of something simple you’d enjoy doing. Grief has changed everything this year, and maybe it will be easier for you if you move away from your traditional plans and try something new. Celebrating in your usual way, but without your loved one, may be too much to handle. Consider a change. But don’t put off making some kind of plans. Continue reading “5 Ideas to Ease Holiday Anxiety During Grief”→
Grieving? Almost all forms of winter holidays share a message of Life and Light in the midst of dormancy and dark. Focus on that message. That’s YOU this year. And yet, you can find the glow, anyway, almost as easy as 1, 2, 3:
Confront and win – with yourself Think about and understand your own status: where are you on the path to healing? What might work this year to make a holiday? If you are medicated, do not mix with holiday alcohol. Non-alcoholic is just as tasty and safer. Search, online and off, and ask your doctor for his advice.Like a Santa’s bag for health and happiness; knowledge is power. I learned from my own grief recovery, and later counseling, it comes down to the simple message: “Hang in, it gets better – It DOES get better.” Do a few things to help it get better. Know that this year, the very things that use to delight may be acutely painful, without some attention. Continue reading “A 1… 2… 3… Approach to the Holiday Glow for Bereaved”→
For eight nights in a row this year, Jews will light up for Hanukkah*. Not just literally with the traditional tool kit of 9-branched menorah, candles and lighter – but metaphorically speaking. We will light up our hearts to make room for love, for joy, and for gratitude in the best of all possible worlds: a pitch black space.
I wish you could have known my dad. He was a great man; kind, gentle, compassionate, loving. He taught me to enjoy all the good things in life and to believe in the magic of Christmas and the wonders of Santa Clause. I guess that’s why I am one of the oldest kids who still believes that Santa travels on a sleigh and brings presents.
Growing up on the south side of Chicago, Christmas was always the best time of the year! Daddy would take my little brother, sister, and me to pick out the traditional Christmas tree. Every year the tree seemed bigger and better than ever before. We would return home boasting of our find and mom would stand at the front door shaking her head and stating—with a grin—that we would never get that tree through the door. She would, no doubt, be vacuuming pine needles until at least April or May.