We greet one another with “Happy Holidays!” but for some it’s not. Those who have lost a loved one during the year may find there is little to cheer.
Widowed at age 40, I couldn’t face my first Christmas without my husband, David. My 10-year-old son and 12-year-old daughter and I accepted my youngest sister’s invitation. We packed up the stockings, gifts, and holiday treats and headed for her charming country home in upstate New York. We returned two years to spend the holidays with her family.
The fourth year, we tackled the seasonal festivities at home by ourselves. Knowing I could not recreate the past, I started a new tradition. The kids decorated in their own style a second, smaller Christmas tree in the sunroom. Their creativity provided lots of laughs.Continue reading “Support Someone Grieving During the Holidays”→
Holiday time can be stressful for many people, and when the stress and anxiety turn to depression and suicidal thoughts, it can be difficult to reach out for help. So many of us feel low around the holidays but are afraid of being a burden to others, yet that connection is so important during this time. That’s why it is imperative to know healthy ways to battle stress and anxiety as well as the best ways to prevent those feelings and keep them from being overwhelming.
Between shopping for gifts, finding time to spend with family, cooking, cleaning, and fitting in work and/or school, the holidays are hard on anxiety sufferers. The best way to combat the negative feelings and stress is to plan well, treat yourself with kindness, and surround yourself with supportive people. Here are a few tips on how to do just that. Continue reading “How To Combat Holiday-Related Stress And Depression”→
While Corrie Ten Boom was living in a German concentration camp, her entire body became infested with lice, making a bad situation worse. She was complaining about it one day, and her sister reminded her of the Bible verse that says “In everything give thanks,” and she challenged Corrie to give thanks for the lice. Corrie’s response was “How can I give thanks to God for lice?” But she made a choice to offer thanks for the lice anyway. Later, she found out that the lice had actually protected her from the assaults of the German soldiers. Continue reading “Give Thanks!”→
Editor’s Note: Although Kay wrote this article especially for parents with no surviving children, everyone will find useful information for coping with the upcoming holiday season.
The forthcoming holidays are often the most difficult times of the year for bereaved parents, now childless and other bereaved people. I have some suggestions that will hopefully assist you during this season. My husband and I have attempted some of the following since our daughter, Rhonda, died and others are ideas from other bereaved friends.
YOU WILL SURVIVE the HOLIDAYS!
Those first few years of bereavement cause us to think that we’ll certainly die without our child/children. You may not be able to ENJOY the holiday but rest assured that there will be a day in your future when you’ll be able to once again gain some pleasure from them. It will never be the same without your child/children but you will learn to cope and reinvest in others and have a life again. Continue reading “Holidays ~ Survival or Defeat? (no surviving children)”→
One of the hardest times of the year is facing Christmas morning. It’s anticipation in reverse. We tend to dread this morning, knowing we should be happy and thankful for all the blessings we still have. But somehow, the blessing we are missing overwhelms our thoughts. You can’t feel the joy through the pain. For those who have suffered the loss of a family member, especially a child (whether it’s been one year or twenty-one years), Christmas is not the same. Emotions are high all around us, and our emotions are also at their peak during the holidays. They offer us the time to think and remember, and to grieve. Continue reading “The Blessing We Are Missing”→