Angel Tree Memorial and Candlelighting

by LaFreda Kilburn

Scotty BandThe holidays are difficult to face after the death of a child or loved one. One way we can remember and share time with our loved ones is to place a Memorial Tree in our local mall. We now have two nine foot ones, full of angels.

Each November, we gather and decorate our trees with pictures and names of our children and loved ones who have gone on without us, and remember how we use to decorate our trees with them. Then on the second Sunday in December, we gather around our trees to spend one evening during the holidays with our children and loved ones.

We also participate in The Compassionate Friends Worldwide Candle Lighting event held on the second Sunday in December. Starting in New Zealand and passing throughout the world, it is a virtual 24-hour wave of light as it moves from time zone to time zone.

We light our candles, read poems for our children, we talk about them, sing songs to them, and simply share this evening. No judgment for tears, glad memories of joy, simply sharing an evening with loving, caring folks who gather to remember too. This seems to ease the sense of emptiness we feel during this time of the year with parties and activities and busyness and hustle. We simply stop, join hands and hearts and comfort each other as we spend an evening with our angels this holiday season. Join with us the second Sunday in December each year and light a candle in memory of your loved one and… Remember the wonderful blessings we received by having them grace our lives.

LaFreda’s only child, Scotty Brian Purcell, died in 1993 at the age of 16 as the result of a motor vehicle accident.

LaFreda’s other writing: And the Band Played On