Bereaved Spouses/Partners, The Road Less Traveled

Heal From Grief by Seeking Inner Satisfaction

by Mary Francis

Healing for widows will be measured by inner satisfaction more than any other criterion. Inner satisfaction is something you get by finding something that ignites your passion and then doing it.

You won’t get it by chasing money or even by getting more money, no matter how much you make. A widow will heal by having a clear and simple vision of her future. Follow these points and you will never lose your way – plus you will be able to measure your healing by how good you feel.

  • Continue to learn
  • Cooperate with others
  • Feel passion for something
  • Share
  • Plan
  • Serve
  • Be Kind

A widow that strives to achieve inner satisfaction looks for ways to promote her own happiness:

  • She works to have a fit and healthy body
  • Sets Realistic goals for what she wants to accomplish
  • Repeats positive statements to herself daily
  • Takes control of her life
  • Is optimist about her future
  • Surrounds herself with supportive friends
  • Has a spiritual faith in something other than herself

To succeed in having inner satisfaction you need to identify and solve your problems without letting them drag you down. In other words you have to be prepared to change, to devise a solution to your problems, develop new plans and connect with others.

Deepak Chopra, author of Ageless Body, Timeless Mind, suggests that you simply ask yourself, “If I had all the time and money in the world, what would I do?” If you keep asking yourself this question, the answer will come to you; and then just do it. If you do, you will have that inner satisfaction that you seek.

I know you are probably thinking that you just don’t have any interest in life and that life is just dull and boring. But I want you to know that there is one thing that you can do that nobody else can do. Seek it out, find it and foster it. You will never live another unhappy day if you are doing what you are passionate about.

Stepping out into the world and claiming your life will be your start to achieving inner satisfaction as a person in your own right. This is your life – go out and claim it.

About the Author: Mary Francis was widowed at the age of fifty after twenty-seven years of marriage.  She found her healing by talking to other widows.  Mary is following her passion by passing on their support and encouragement to widows around the world.  She is the author of The Sisterhood of Widows and founder of the best widow resource site on the web, The Sisterhood of Widows 

Mary is an advocate for widows and provides a free newsletter, blogs, a local widows group called “Chick’s Night Out”, plus hundreds of links to other resources to help widows get back on their feet. You can contact Mary anytime by email: